"You never listen" puts people on the defensive.
Expecting someone to "just know" what you need is a setup for disappointment. Even the people who love you most cannot read your mind. 3. How to Make Yourself Understood
If they feel responsible for your pain, they may "shut down" or deflect to avoid feeling like a "bad person." you_dont_understand_me
One person often wants to be "fixed" (logic), while the other just wants to be "felt" (emotion).
Sometimes we are vague because being fully understood feels vulnerable. If they truly "see" us and still don't like us, that’s scarier than being misunderstood. 2. Auditing Your Communication "You never listen" puts people on the defensive
People often listen through the lens of their own experiences. They aren't hearing your story; they are hearing their version of it.
Start the conversation by saying: "I don’t need a solution right now; I just need you to hear how I’m feeling so I don’t feel alone in this." If they truly "see" us and still don't
Convert your abstract "vibes" into concrete words.