"I don't know why you're so surprised" (Self-blame of the victim).
The song highlights a "vicious appetite," suggesting the manipulator is driven by a deep, insatiable need to consume or control others. Alex Who? - The Spider and the Fly (Audio)
The song draws its narrative DNA from , which served as a warning to children about the dangers of flattery. Original Poem Alex Who? Song Tactics Uses flattery about "diamond bright" eyes. Uses physical intimacy and warnings. Setting A "winding stair" and "parlour". A metaphorical "web" and "heart-stopping" kiss. Outcome The fly is eaten by the spider. The fly "ain't getting out alive". Moral Don't listen to "idle, silly, flattering words". "I don't know why you're so surprised" (Self-blame
The narrator refuses to apologize, claiming they warned the victim "a thousand times". Alex Who? - The Spider and the Fly (Audio)